The Pendulum Swings

Can you love someone without fully knowing them? What if your familiarity is more of an understanding and feeling than truly knowing? I often wonder if such a thought is illogical, but some of my best decisions were based on gut instinct, and some of my worst were plagued by over-analysis. There must be a happy medium – a balance that seesaws love and logic. The equilibrium, however, is incredibly delicate.

How do you know if you’ve fallen in love? I’ve certainly been deeply infatuated numerous times, but only felt love for a fleeting moment. It was so brief, yet so powerful. Once it’s gone, whether you think so or not, you spend what feels like a millennium trying to capture the elusive spirit of what you experienced. Once it’s lost, it can seem nearly impossible to discover again. 

Your person is out there, living and breathing the same air as you are right now. You’ve not crossed paths, or perhaps you have and the road diverged before it eventually reconnects. All you can do is work on yourself until you’re presented with that ever-elusive moment. Until then, never stop progressing, because believe me, they aren’t pausing for a single second. Work to develop a strong internal locus of control and become responsible for your own growth. For the external shit, as Wayne said in Carter V, let it all work out. 

For me, this love exists for a person and an idea. The two are intertwined, and the journey I’ve been on in my pursuit of this shadow tandem has been full of lessons, joy, pain, suffering, growth, and every other contradictory principle in the book. What I learned along the way was that when you think “the moment” has come and gone, you’re wrong. That moment was merely a microcosm – one of many, that accumulate to create a connection. Build on that moment, be specific in your takeaways, and detail what you can do better next time to optimize. Remember that life is a long road, and no matter where you are, or where they are, the pendulum swings.

Until then 💭